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Sometimes people have questions about the basic
premises of HumanRemodelingTM.
Click on any of the
links below to see answers to the most
frequently asked questions.
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Q:
What massage is the right one for me?
A:
There are numerous massage and bodywork
techniques; the experienced therapist like
Milica can always find the suitable tool that
is the best for you.
Just like in home remodeling,
HumanRemodelingTM
depends on the client's needs, time and budget.
Some people will require a "light touchup" and
some will require "demolishing of drywall". A
person who is healthy and stretches regularly
will require a light maintenance; a person full
of calcified knots, tight muscles and Twinkies
and pizza will have to be massaged longer to
release those tight areas.
Clients range from athletic to delicate; ill and injured to healthy; young to old; novices in the health field to professionals,
asking for deep work or light touch and just talking.
HumanRemodelingTM addresses the totality of human being
and thus will select technique to suit each client.
Since each person is unique and has different needs
at different times, every session is unique and custom tailored to the client.
Q:
Can you fix me?
A:
Together, you and I can help you. Ulimately,
you are the only one who can heal yourself. My
hands and words are
just a reminder for your mind to start paying
attention to long-forgotten parts of you, and
thus bring healing energy to them. In other
words, I carry intent of your wellness and
invite you into it. It is very simple and
deeply profound.
The underlying concept of our work together is that the client has a deep inner wisdom that knows what needs to be done.
Therefore, therapist and client work together
to discover
what needs to be worked on. In other words, the therapist does
not "fix" the client or "does" something TO them, but rather therapist and client work together. The therapist listens to
what the client's body requires and then follows up. It is like a dance, where the client is
leading. This is diametrically opposite than
modern medicine, where the doctor is the boss
who practically owns your body and tells you
what to do. This system is more based on client
empowerment and thus requires more of client's
self responsibility.
About 98% of my clients come in with a keen
interest to be well and an attitude of
cooperation, and thus are able
to relax into their own wellness. It is rare
that someone walks away with their pain still
there. And
in rare case that
I cannot help you, I refer you to my
teachers.
Q:
What can I expect in a session?
A:
Each session is unique.
Usually, sessions are rather comfortable. There could be some pain when releasing the knots, but it feels like a "good pain"
of releasing, it lasts a short time and it feels much better afterwards. For people with injuries and very tight knots, there
could be some more pronounced pain, if we work on an accelerated schedule and cram all work in one session. We could work
very gently using myofascial release techniques, but then you have to come back for repeated sessions. For some people with
serious long term pains, the "remodeling" will take repeated sessions. In any case, an
occasional maintenance is excellent as
a preventative measure, and it would be better to take that route.
Q:
What can I do to take maximum advantage
of bodywork sessions?
A:
HumanRemodelingTM
is just like home remodeling - it will give you
a beautiful new "front" but then you have to
maintain it to keep it looking good. Some form
of stretching at home is necessary. In general:
the more you do at home, the less we have to do
together.
The most beneficial, permanent outcomes are for people who are willing to do something to help themselves. Although it might
seem that "Milica can fix you," i.e. most likely you will feel better after a session because your
kinks will be released
and your thinking will be clearer, the permanent change will come only when you do something in your life, regularly. The
kinks will come back, the stress will come
back and "get you" unless you do something for
yourself on regular basis. Milica will teach
you what you could do.
A human being needs maintenance on all levels in order to
sustain optimum health, because living requires using muscles, thinking
and feeling, and contains much stress as well as joy. Human body requires the obvious physical maintenance of proper food,
stretching, exercise, sleep, and other intangibles such as proper environment and satisfying human relationships.
Massage cannot accomplish any of those things
for you, but can definitely get you started in
the right direction. If you take care of
yourself, you will be gloriously healthy and
strong. Maintenance massage greatly helps to
increase the benefits of all the care that you
take of yourself.
Please
come back for maintenance sessions. Think of
them as haircuts, changing oil
in your car, or any other regular maintenance activity.
If there is regular massage, then problems
happen much less and are easier to fix when
they do strike. Think of maintenance
massage as a high-yield investment into your
own health.
Q:
What actually heals?
A:
The totality of human being is a great mystery. There seems to be something Divine that makes life possible, that makes us
alive. We can call that Divine as God, Great Creator, Great Mystery, Tao, White Light, Great Light, Universe, Life, and many
other names. Whatever we want to call that Divine that makes life possible, our belief is that connecting to It is the only
thing that heals, and disconnecting from It is the thing that causes dis-ease and pain. Therefore, our main goal is to Reconnect
and practice that elusive yet necessary I AM sense of presence. It is not necessary to do anything special to reconnect to
the Divine spark inside. We just need to ask for it, gratefully accept it and use it with a sense of appreciation.
In other words, the main philosophy of
HumanRemodelingTM is that God is the only ultimate healer, and that you already know how
to get in touch with Him. Milica is just a tool to help you Remember. You heal yourself.
Just talk to
Dear God in the language
of your Heart. Once connected to the Infinite, it is easier to do all that is required to maintain the body in the physical
form. Then our life has meaning, zest, and joy, and we eagerly participate in it.
Q:
What do you mean by "Dear God?"
A:
Some people tell me: "I don't like God." Well,
I don't like the church idea of "god" either.
It is plain scary,
nasty alien or yet another revengeful human.
How can real God be that limited? When I
say "God," I mean
the Divine, the Infinite - call it God,
Great Creator, Great Mystery, Tao, White Light,
Great Light, Universe, Life, whatever.
I like the word "God" because it is short and
easy, and easily translates into my native
language, where we call It "Dear God." Something very very dear
and near, that means us well.
Nobody
really knows what Dear God is.
It can be met through deep meditation
and also through being present in daily life,
and even then, we get only glimpses, since our
simple human minds cannot comprehend Infinity.
It is definitely something that is Infinite, the Great Mystery, the Great Creator,
the Great Light, that leads us towards our greatest potential.
In my
personal experience,
God has infinite and almost smoochey compassion, and a very
strict, disciplining side. It does ask us to be responsible, take care of ourselves
and our duties in the world, and follow our heart's longing. It will do anything possible to help us move in that direction.
And, my experience definitely shows that It loves us and protects us. The troubles come when we do not follow that path, but
rather listen to our own mind.
Q:
How do we maintain connection with "Dear God?"
A:
Universe is a request-and-response mechanism. It is ultimately there to help us. If we don't cooperate, then it cannot help
us. So let's do our part and assure we get the help we need. Below is a gift for you, to help you keep your heart joyful and
Remembering.
The text below is a translation from
a sacred text in Sanscrit. Keep on saying it, mean it, and God will talk to
you. This Connection is what is necessary for good health.
God already talks to us all the time, but we are not aware of it.
When our heart opens, we become more aware.
Dial 1-800-CALL-GOD from your heart and earnestly say:
"Oh Master, show some compassion on me. Please come and dwell in my heart because
without you, it is painfully lonely. Fill this empty pot with nectar of love. I
do not know any special worship. I know and believe only in
you. I have been searching for you all over the world. Please come and hold my hand
now."
Or ponder and reflect on
what Hafiz, the great Sufi poet, said:
Every particle in
the Universe is a dancing altar
that some Mysterious
Force worships.
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